If you’re going to get big, you’re going to have to learn to deal with it.
That’s the advice many of us receive when we take those first tentative steps to get our work into the world in a much bigger way.
The bigger you get, the more you’ll be criticized or just have nasty things said about you (or even to you — anonymously online of course). So, chalk it up to jealously and move on.
Now, full disclosure, I also believed this sage advice…until a couple of weeks ago.
After the death of my mother, I wrote a blog post as a tribute to her. And while 99% of the feedback and comments I received was how beautiful it was, I also got one of the nastiest, mean-spirited, hateful comments I’ve ever received in all my years of being online. (The person called me self-centered and spiteful and said I clearly hated my mother among other things — I thought of posting it but then I didn’t want to give her the attention she’s clearly craving.) Continue reading
You know those posts where someone talks about how “grateful” they are to be an entrepreneur and have the freedom and flexibility to drop everything for an emergency and have their business not miss a beat?
Yeah, they annoy me too.
They are especially annoying to me now as I begin to navigate the “new normal” and make my way back from the transition and passing of my mother.
It’s not that there isn’t some truth in what they’re saying, and I too am grateful I have systems in place and a team that can function at a very high level without me.
But, like I wrote last year about the “truth about working everywhere and anywhere” as an entrepreneur, it’s not the whole truth. Continue reading
When I was a teenager, my mom handed me a section from the newspaper.
“What’s this?” I asked.
“It’s a Mother’s Day contest,” she said.
I looked. You were supposed to write an essay honoring your mother and the top essays would not only win a prize but also be published on Mother’s Day.
I tossed the paper aside. “I don’t know what I would write,” I said.
You see, I was in my “stubborn difficult teenage brat” phase. This was also the time in my life where I would attend our high school football games and deliberately not look at the scoreboard at the end so when my mom would ask what the score was (and ask she always did because she loved her football) I would tell her I didn’t know. And she would sigh.
Sometimes I would even tell her I didn’t know if we won or lost. Just to irritate her.
But I didn’t forget she asked. I secretly read all the entries when they were published and wondered if it was possible that I could have written an essay for her. Continue reading
Today I take a moment to ponder all what death has taught me.
My first dog, Amber, died unexpectedly in my arms at 6 years old. She just collapsed one day and died. I was horrified and hysterical. At that time I had been lucky enough to barely witness death in my life — I still had 3 living grandparents.
My second dog, Maddie, had lung cancer and I listened to her for 2 weeks struggling to breathe at night, not being able to sleep. Finally one night my husband couldn’t stand it anymore so we woke the vet up to put her down — I got in the car with her and she suddenly collapsed and died in my arms. I felt exhausted and empty. Continue reading
If you’re like a lot of creative artistic souls, you may have struggled wondering if you’re “creative enough” or “more creative than so-and-so” (although comparing yourself to anyone is never a good idea).
Well, today is you’re lucky day! I created a quiz to help you figure out how creative you are. Continue reading
My very good friend, Wealthy Thought Leader Andrea J. Lee (you can listen to her on my podcast right here) just came out with a new book “We Need To Talk — Your Guide to Challenging Business Conversations” which has inspired this post today.
What Andrea explains in her book is that by not having these conversations, as difficult as they may be, we’re hurting ourselves more than we realize. Unsaid difficult conversations create stress in our lives and our businesses — and the more stress you’re under, the less likely you’ll be able to grow and nurture your business the way you want to.
But it goes even deeper than that — much of the conflict and violence in the world can be traced back to unsaid difficult conversations. The combination of people not getting their needs met coupled with the weight of all the things that desperately want to said and are instead being denied and stuffed down, is being channeled into unhelpful and destructive aggression. Continue reading
As I wrote about in my Monday Morning Musing, I’m getting ready to launch a big project this summer, which means the Illusion has decided to also show up (in a nutshell the Illusion is all the crap that tries and stops you when you’re taking a big leap in your business or life — basically all the crap is an Illusion keeping you from taking that big leap).
The Illusion has many faces. Not only does it show up differently for everyone, but it also can show up differently for the same person. But let me tell you how it’s showing up for me right now. It’s a combination of some health challenges and personal challenges — in other words, things that have nothing to do with business getting in the way of me working on my business.
Now, the problem is these things are real. And they need to be dealt with. So the problems themselves aren’t exactly an illusion.
What IS the Illusion is that those things are actually standing in my way to taking that big leap in my business. Continue reading
I’m cooking up something pretty big over here (details to come later this summer — I’m aiming for July) but in the meantime….whoa mama!
It’s fascinating to me how quickly you forget about the power of Resistance and the Illusion…and how surprising it feels when Resistance and the Illusion smacks you in the face when you’re getting ready to uplevel your business and your life. It’s not like I haven’t been at this rodeo before, but yet every time somehow feels like the first time. (And not in a good way.)
Right now, what seems to be having it’s way with me is the Illusion.
I first heard about the Illusion through Lisa Sasevich (and, in fact, I pulled a Backstage Pass clip from her recent Speak-to-Sell LIVE where she beautifully shares her experiences with the Illusion from the stage — yes, even someone has successful as Lisa Sasevich runs into the Illusion from time to time). Continue reading
Recently I’ve been writing about some heady topics in my Morning Musings (What happens when your best isn’t good enough, Learning from Failure) and Life, Biz and the Pursuit of Happiness. And, of course, this is causing me to realize all the places where I’m not showing up in my biz and life, and where my growth edges are.
And there’s a part of me that just wants to scream “Oh for the love of God, can’t we all be healed already?”
I mean, all of this focus on healing ourselves — is there ever a time where it’s counterproductive? Continue reading
I know I’ve been a bit quiet lately with this column. That’s because I’ve been in a place of exploration with how I can best show up each day in my writing (actually in all phases of my life and business but for this column we’re talking about writing).
And, oddly enough (or maybe not so oddly) even though I am a writer, writing about it didn’t feel right. I felt like I needed to be IN the process, rather than outside and observing the process. (Because no matter how deep a piece of writing can feel and be, you still need a certain level of objectivity just to discover the words to describe it.)
So what I’ve focused on is the actual writing. I’ve been working on my new novel (gasp!) and my next business book. And, it’s actually been coming along really well. Continue reading
What? Paint your marketing plan? Is that a typo?
Nope. This weekend’s assignment is to take a typically left-brain activity and turn it into a right-brain activity.
Don’t feel like painting your marketing plan? Why not compose a song? Or an interpretive dance? Or make a sculpture? Continue reading
Podcast: Play in new window
Does this sound familiar?
You’re getting ready to launch (or relaunch) your business — which means you need a new logo and a tagline.
You excitedly sit down to work on it. Because this is the first step to getting a new brand together, right?
If you listen to me, I’m a firm believer that “Taglines are the Devil.” Continue reading
I’ve stumbled upon another growth edge for me. (Sigh.)
This is one of those deep wounds that I really didn’t want to touch because it was so deep. And, quite honestly, I didn’t feel like dealing with the crap that would bubble up by touching it. Plus, it was a personal situation — it had absolutely nothing to do with business, so I really hated the idea of taking one of my weekends off to move though it.
Alas, your spiritual work doesn’t always show up when it’s convenient. Sometimes it shows up when it truly is the next thing you need to do. And I could just feel how this was what I needed to do to continue to take my business and life to the next level. (I have long stopped questioning how things are related and how working on my spiritual development has brought me more financial abundance — I realize it makes no sense on a practical level but yet, it works.) Continue reading
Successful people have successful habits.
From the how they start their day off (for many of them, their daily habits consist of some sort of combination of physical activity, meditation and reading) to how they’ve structured their time to be as efficient as possible, their habits tend to reflect their outer success.
And many successful people are very willing and open about what their daily habits are. So, if you’d like to duplicate their success, it’s pretty easy to find out what daily habits you should start integrating into your day.
Well… Continue reading
You may have noticed my past few blog posts have been about sports, and comparing sports to business.
Now, while putting sports and business together is a fairly common comparison, for this Creativity Jolt, I’d love to encourage you to “look outside the box” and see where you can find inspiration. Continue reading