Avoiding Having a Difficult Conversation? 3 Reasons Why You’re Only Hurting Yourself & Your Biz

My very good friend, Wealthy Thought Leader Andrea J. Lee (you can listen to her on my podcast right here) just came out with a  new book “We Need To Talk — Your Guide to Challenging Business Conversations” which has inspired this post today.wntt-cover

What Andrea explains in her book is that by not having these conversations, as difficult as they may be, we’re hurting ourselves more than we realize. Unsaid difficult conversations create stress in our lives and our businesses — and the more stress you’re  under, the less likely you’ll be able to grow and nurture your business the way you want to.

But it goes even deeper than that — much of the conflict and violence in the world can be traced back to unsaid difficult conversations. The combination of people not getting their needs met coupled with the weight of all the things that desperately want to said and are instead being denied and stuffed down, is being channeled into unhelpful and destructive aggression.  Continue reading

Life, Biz and the Pursuit of Happiness — Will the Real Illusion Please Stand Up?

As I wrote about in my Monday Morning Musing, I’m getting ready to launch a big project this summer, which means the Illusion has decided to also show up (in a nutshell the Illusion is all the crap that tries and stops you when you’re taking a big leap in your business or life — basically all the crap is an Illusion keeping you from taking that big leap).PersonalJourney_02

The Illusion has many faces. Not only does it show up differently for everyone, but it also can show up differently for the same person. But let me tell you how it’s showing up for me right now. It’s a combination of some health challenges and personal challenges — in other words, things that have nothing to do with business getting in the way of me working on my business.

Now, the problem is these things are real. And they need to be dealt with. So the problems themselves aren’t exactly an illusion.

What IS the Illusion is that those things are actually standing in my way to taking that big leap in my business. Continue reading

Monday Morning Musing — The Illusion

I’m cooking up something pretty big over here (details to come later this summer — I’m aiming for July) but in the meantime….whoa mama!Musings_02

It’s fascinating to me how quickly you forget about the power of Resistance and the Illusion…and how surprising it feels when Resistance and the Illusion smacks you in the face when you’re getting ready to uplevel your business and your life. It’s not like I haven’t been at this rodeo before, but yet every time somehow feels like the first time. (And not in a good way.)

Right now, what seems to be having it’s way with me is the Illusion.

I first heard about the Illusion through Lisa Sasevich (and, in fact, I pulled a Backstage Pass clip from her recent Speak-to-Sell LIVE where she beautifully shares her experiences with the Illusion from the stage — yes, even someone has successful as Lisa Sasevich runs into the Illusion from time to time). Continue reading

Life, Biz and the Pursuit of Happiness — Enough Already! Can’t We Just Be Healed?

Recently I’ve been writing about some heady topics in my Morning Musings (What happens when your best isn’t good enough, Learning from Failure) and Life, Biz and the Pursuit of Happiness. And, of course, this is causing me to realize all the places where I’m not showing up in my biz and life, and where my growth edges are.PersonalJourney_02

And there’s a part of me that just wants to scream “Oh for the love of God, can’t we all be healed already?”

I mean, all of this focus on healing ourselves — is there ever a time where it’s counterproductive? Continue reading

The Writing Life — Your Best Writing Self

I know I’ve been a bit quiet lately with this column. That’s because I’ve been in a place of exploration with how I can best show up each day in my writing (actually in all phases of my life and business but for this column we’re talking about writing).PenInk_150

And, oddly enough (or maybe not so oddly) even though I am a writer, writing about it didn’t feel right. I felt like I needed to be IN the process, rather than outside and observing the process. (Because no matter how deep a piece of writing can feel and be, you still need a certain level of objectivity just to discover the words to describe it.)

So what I’ve focused on is the actual writing. I’ve been working on my new novel (gasp!) and my next business book. And, it’s actually been coming along really well. Continue reading

Life, Biz and the Pursuit of Happiness — Hard Truths

I’ve stumbled upon another growth edge for me. (Sigh.)PersonalJourney_02

This is one of those deep wounds that I really didn’t want to touch because it was so deep. And, quite honestly, I didn’t feel like dealing with the crap that would bubble up by touching it. Plus, it was a personal situation — it had absolutely nothing to do with business, so I really hated the idea of taking one of my weekends off to move though it.

Alas, your spiritual work doesn’t always show up when it’s convenient. Sometimes it shows up when it truly is the next thing you need to do. And I could just feel how this was what I needed to do to continue to take my business and life to the next level. (I have long stopped questioning how things are related and how working on my spiritual development has brought me more financial abundance — I realize it makes no sense on a practical level but yet, it works.) Continue reading

Monday Morning Musings — The Problem With Creating New Habits

Successful people have successful habits.Musings_02

From the how they start their day off (for many of them, their daily habits consist of some sort of combination of physical activity, meditation and reading) to how they’ve structured their time to be as efficient as possible, their habits tend to reflect their outer success.

And many successful people are very willing and open about what their daily habits are. So, if you’d like to duplicate their success, it’s pretty easy to find out what daily habits you should start integrating into your day.

Easy right?

Well… Continue reading

Monday Morning Musings — Learning From Failure

A number of Olympics ago, there was a Russian male skater who didn’t win the gold. So, he decided to completely reinvent himself.Musings_02

He moved to the US, hired new coaches, started a brand new workout routine — actually he started doing pretty much everything different.

And, 4 years later, he won the gold.

And those are the stories I love — how someone turns failure into success. When you hear those stories, you applaud how the person didn’t allow failure to deter them, that they picked themselves up, dusted themselves off and came back bigger and better.

Those are the stories that are easy to love.

But what happens if you fail, try again, and still fail? Continue reading

PW Unplugged Radio: Christine Arylo & Amy Ahlers — Reforming Your Inner Mean Girl

Play

PW-Unplugged_01If you’re anything like me, you have a noisy, negative and just plain mean little voice in your head.

That little voice is constantly nagging, berating and criticizing you — sucking your energy, your dreams, your joy and even your life.

My good friends, best-selling authors Christine Arylo and Amy Ahlers, call that little voice your Inner Mean Girl, and they’re on a mission to reform millions of Inner Mean Girls (and Dudes) around the globe. Continue reading

PW Unplugged Radio: Raven “The Talk Show Maven” & How to Host Profitable Interviews

Play

You may have heard — podcasting is all the rage.PW-Unplugged_01

But it’s more than just podcasting, hosting your own podcast, radio show, telesummit, video summit, etc. if a fabulous way to build your credibility and expertise.

However, it really isn’t as easy as what some “gurus” would have you think. Sure, you can just pick up the phone and line someone up to interview, but if you’re not a good interviewer, you probably aren’t going to succeed as a podcast/radio host.

And that’s where my friend Raven B. Davis (otherwise known as Raven “The Talk Show Maven”) comes in. Continue reading

Monday Morning Musings — What Do You Do When Your Best Isn’t Good Enough?

If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you already know I’m a sports fan and have been avidly watching my Wisconsin Badgers dance their way into the Final 4 in the College Basketball tournament.Musings_07

On Saturday night, they took on the Arizona Wildcats in the Elite 8 — this was actually a repeat of last year’s Elite 8 where the Badgers won in overtime by one point on a controversial foul to get to the Final 4.

(Stay with me here even if you’re not a sports fan — I promise it will be worth it.)

Needless to say, it rankled AZ that Wis knocked them out of the tournament last year and they spent the summer doing whatever they could to get back to the Big Dance and finally end up in the Final 4.

And lo and behold, here was their big shot. They had the chance to beat Wis in the Elite 8, send Wis home and prove they were the better team all along.

Except it didn’t go that way. Continue reading