Why I Haven’t Done Any Planning for 2016 Yet

If you take a few minutes and scroll through my blog, you’ll see a significant number of posts and references to sitting down and planning out your year before January 1 and how that is a good thing.HappyNewYear_01

And … here I am, on January 11, 2016, admitting that I’ve done none of that this year.

Even worse, I haven’t even figured out a theme or a word for 2016 yet.

Other than some rough planning in my head as to what I want to accomplish, I’ve done nothing. Nada. Zip.

It’s not that I don’t believe in goals and planning anymore. I still even believe in the studies, like that famous Harvard study, that shows that people who write down their goals are far more likely to actually accomplish them.

And, even more puzzling, writing down my goals and plans HAS worked for me. There is no question that I have gotten more things done over the years because I planned them out.

So, what gives?

Am I just procrastinating? (Answer: No.)

Am I stuck? (Answer: No.)

Am I out of integrity? (Answer: Maybe, but I don’t think so.)

What’s going on is it’s time to do things differently again. And I’m beginning at the beginning — with how I start my year off.

You see, there’s a dark side I don’t talk about much with my business. The dark side is I’m prone to overworking, depression and burning out. Sometimes the burnouts are big, taking me out for a few days or even weeks (although it’s been several years since that’s happened). Most of the time, the burnouts are small, more like mini-burn outs where I can still function and get things done, but there’s always a cost to be paid to my mental and physical health.

Now, my usual way of dealing with this is to either power though it on some level. (i.e. I can do this! It will be different this year!) Or, to do some sort of “bargaining.” (i.e. I just need to work really hard until X DATE, and then it will all be different.)

Needless to say, neither of those strategies work all that well. And, as we all know the definition of insanity is to keep doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results.

So, this year I decided it was time to try a new way of running my business and my life by embracing the Divine Feminine.

Now, if you’re anything like me, you read that and you think “well, that sounds all well and good but what the heck does that even mean?” And I’m here to tell you, I really don’t know yet. It’s all a bit of a mystery to me as well, which is why I’ve joined a year-long program to learn more about running my business and life from the Divine Feminine.

What I WILL tell you is there is a lot more emphasis on doing things based on around the moon and other natural cycles, hence why I haven’t figured everything out yet. You see, January is a month for dreaming, so rather than forcing things and trying to get everything figured out by January 1, I’m taking a step back and allowing myself to pause, receive and expand and see what comes to me. Only then, after I’ve allowed myself this time to dream, do I then put a structure around it. (By February 1, I should have some sort of structure and plan for this year.)

Now, is this new way of planning out my year making me nervous? Heck YES! I am extremely uncomfortable that I’m still sort of floating around here and letting things come to me and don’t have a clear plan to work from.

BUT, here’s the thing. I don’t feel like the way I was running my business before, where I spent nearly all of my time in my masculine energy, was all that healthy on any level. I think I was taxing my internal organs with all that driving and pushing and forcing — which is why I would crash and burn both physically and emotionally. Women aren’t built to handle being in their masculine energy all or most of the time — they can suffer from very real physical aliments like adrenal burnout when they try.

(Worse, I’m not all that convinced I was even running my business from my Divine Masculine — I have a sneaking suspicion when I got stressed, I would flip into low levels of both masculine and feminine energy, which would just exasperate the problems.)

So, I have no idea if any of this will work or, really, what exactly will happen. But, along with being nervous and uncomfortable, I’m also excited about the possibilities and seeing what is possible to create in 2016 by stepping into a whole new level of being nourished and supported.  I’m excited about what it would look like to get my to-do’s done without all that struggle and angst and effort — and being able to work WITH my natural tendencies instead of constantly fighting them.

I’ll keep you posted. (And I’d love to hear from any of you if you’ve tried running your business from the Divine Feminine and what that looked like for you.)

 

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9 thoughts on “Why I Haven’t Done Any Planning for 2016 Yet

  1. Linda Luke

    I may be experiencing something similar. Just couldn’t focus on setting intentions, goals, or themes for 2016. So I let it flow and it feels a little wobbly, but I have had some really cool ideas coming my way the last couple days. One is a new program that wasn’t even on my radar and is calling to my heart. Maybe this feminine energy thing works…

  2. David Musgrave

    HI MIchelle
    What has worked amazingly well for me is being comfortable with both my divine masculine AND my divine feminine. I’m not sure how running a business from the divine feminine would work as it kind of requires more masculine attributes I think.
    Being in touch with my divine feminine has allowed me to write a book about A Woman’s Route to Wellness – Take Charge of your Happiness, Belly Fat and Sexiness. I had been trying for a while to do this book, but I really found I had to be in touch with my feminine before I could write in a way that women seem to relate to.
    I think the key might be in being very aware of when you are operating in your masculine or your feminine – and for you, making sure that you come into your feminine at the end of your day so you relax into who you really are when you’re not running your business.

  3. Michele PW Post author

    Hi David — I think you’re on to something that knowing when I’m in my masculine or feminine would be very helpful. And I’m still playing around with the biz and feminine — receiving is definitely feminine, and for a business to succeed you need to receive money and clients. But yes, I’m not entirely sure how the feminine will play in biz so for right now I’m being open and trusting to see what happens.

  4. Svea

    Thank you for this refreshing post. I look forward to hearing how it unfolds.
    My way to set the year into flow differently is to put into the calendar rejuvenation activities first and then see how that speaks to what pattern of working can fit well alongside that. In 2000, I put writing workshops I would be attending across the year into my calendar first. I realised that it meant at least 1-2 Weds mornigs a month, and every Friday morning were devoted to writing and hence not available for client contact. It turned into one of my best years despite me being ever so unsure about how it would all turn out.
    My other way is have a one-pager hanging up close to where I usually do decision-making and scheduling. The one pager has images to remind me of what needs to be part of my life to do meaningful, impactful and profitable work. I glance up and ask myself to what extent what I am about to agree to and add to the calendar, contributes or detracts from what’s on that A4.

  5. Julie King

    I have been experiencing much of the same. I started the new year with cleaning out my email inbox that had gone bonkers and musing and being with myself. There seems to be a collective feeling among us intuitives that this first of January is feeling like a time for introspection and being quiet. I pushed and pushed in numerous businesses over the years overworking and using too much masculine energy. The result adrenal exhaustion and my accupuncturist would say I was I was really yin but trying to be too yang. Big result was a health crash last two years that meant surrendering and having to do my life from a different place. Gentle is my new motto and being receptive is my path. I am totally on my own so it can be scary when I am having a hard time coming up with new workshops etc. But for this month so far in this new year, I just have to wait until the new creativity slowly creeps in. Hang in there and I am with you. You are one of the few bloggers, newsletter people I have not unsubscribed from due to too much chatter in my in box.

  6. Rachel

    I’ve never been into New Year’s Resolutions, but I do have two points of my year when I push the “Reset” or “New Intention” button: September and February. Why these two? September, because I love the energy of the new season with its cooler, fresher air, together, I suppose, with all those “new school year” feelings. February, because it’s almost the New Year, but without all those sugar cravings and the residual feelings of overwhelm and exhaustion which follow the holidays. It takes me a good two weeks to get back in my old groove, let alone finding a new one.

    On reading your post, I realize that I’ve dialed back on my “masculine” side in the last couple of years, and unconsciously cultivated the “feminine”, largely through a realization of what makes ME tick inside. Your post invites me to be more aware of when I choose one or the other, especially in regard to business. I look forward to hearing more about your journey!

  7. Pamela Thompson

    Hi Michele,

    Thanks for sharing your truths and exposing your vulnerability. There are so many of us who constantly drive ourselves and burn out or get diagnosed with a chronic illness or cancer. I totally understand where you’re coming from. You may find my book “Learning to Dance with Life: A Guide for High Achieving Women” and the 7 keys to cultivating improved health, happiness, fulfillment and inner peace in your life of assistance in moving forward. You may access the first 3 chapters here: http://creativelivingcommunity.com/blog/the-book/

    Kudos to you for committing to changing how you’re “doing” life and work.

    Warm Hugs, Pam

  8. Karen McMillan

    YES! I’m not about resolutions. I’m all about the YIN (divine feminine is a language I use less often). Believe in balancing yin (femine) and yang (masculine) energy. As the Tao reminds me, they lead and follow.
    Also, we are in sync about the affect & alignment with more natural elements. One of the reasons I lead the season retreats. This year, I brought the moon element into my (belated) Winter Solstice virtual retreat. If you want a copy of the audio let me know.

    Whatever you call it. Remember to breathe, connect and be in YOUR power.
    Hugs. <3

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